She smokes so she tells me that her doctor says taking the birth control pill is double the cancer risk. I told her that one of my ex GFs used a diaphragm. She said that is like wearing a cap over your uterus and it is a hard cap that is uncomfortable and an awkward feeling during intercourse. She said she could get an IUD but she and I want to have kids after we get married within the next 12 months and she thinks its a pain to install and remove in that short a time span.
I have been using condoms as the only acceptable contraceptive method that my girlfriend accepts and trusts. I have even looked into getting a male birth control pill and she rolled her eyes at that and said she doesn’t trust it.
I have erectile dysfunction sometimes and I take Levitra for that. I find that the time I have to take to put a condom on takes away from the passion of the moment. My girlfriend has caught me having unprotected sex with her and freaks out. Last night, we did it a few times with condoms and once unprotected. She really liked the last time we did it and I thought she would ask me if I was wearing a condom. Without that stupid rubber on, I was getting much more erect and my girlfriend enjoyed the sex more. I also have problems ejaculating inside her so I am not sure if she could get pregnant with what we did.
Can a woman get pregnant from a man who has unprotected sex with her and he does not ejaculate inside her? When I am ready to finish myself off, I pull out and masturbate. I am not a doctor but I would think the sperm has to shoot up her tubes to fertilize her eggs in order for her to get pregnant. Women are not rabbits.
I lost my virginity 20 years ago and I was in a marriage in which my wife was sick all the time and we rarely had sex. My girlfriend and I are in our 40s.
We want to get married next year, in 12 months and plan to have children. We are dating right now and although I would marry her now if she got pregnant it would be better to wait and use contraception for a year until we are married.
As long as I remove my penis from her vagina before I ejaculate, is my girlfriend safe from getting pregnant? Can small amounts of sperm get into her reproductive system while we are having intercourse. through my male lubrication in my penis, that could cause her to become pregnant?
My girlfriend is afraid to use spermicides? The warning labels caution that the foam may irritate and sting the vaginal tissues and that warning freaks her out. Are there any mild spermicides for women with sensitive skin?

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The withdrawal method is not fool proof as she can get pregnant from pre cum and personally I kind of think it ruins the moment in a loving relationship. I have smoked for 20 years unfortunately and been on and off the pill for 16 but if she’s worried about this then it’s her choice. Maybe she could look into the depo injection, one small jab every 3 months or maybe the patch (which I personally know very little about but it worth investigating). I think the best thing you can do is go to the family planning clinic or doctor and talk through different options