I am so embarrassed that I am posting this on the Gay and Lesbian section. I am a straight male. I suffer from erectile dysfunction. I take Levitra for it. I am in the process of a divorce from my wife. I thought it was going to be that my wife and I would go to court and get it done. But in my state we have this divorce law whereby we have to wait 120 days being separated until the divorce is finalized. Stupid, but that’s the law. It’s not like that in other states and it is a real pain in the butt for people who are threw with their spouses and want to go out and date and I know there are women out there who insist that guys have this time apart from one woman before moving on to another. But when the right guy comes along they throw those rules away for some prince charming and it’s just the average guys like me that get stuck with the “have to wait a year before you can date someone else” rule.
Since my wife moved out of the house, which was my request, I have been intimate with another woman and the woman I am now dating could progress into something intimate.
The last girlfriend lasted two months. My wife and I had a fight and she had her laundry list of things she wanted me to change. I told her the only thing I wanted her to change is to stop making lists of things she wanted me to change. She said she wasn’t going to change and if I wanted a woman who was like that I should find someone else. Little did she know but I went on the internet and found someone else on line, got a divorce lawyer, and two weeks later I was telling her to pack her stuff and get out. I started dating this other woman. She complained about two ex boyfriends she had on the first time we met. She said her last boyfriend was married and his wife dragged out the divorce too long. So when she asked me if I had ever been married. I said yes. Then I told her that I had been divorced for a year. I did it because I felt that she wouldn’t see me otherwise.
But there were problems. At first my wife refused to move out. Her sister advised her that would be abandonment. So I talked to my lawyer to see how I could get a constable and get a court order to get her out of there. It’s unbelievable that my wife who refused to have sex with me for two years was then refusing to move out of our apartment so that I can find another woman and have a normal sex life. Seriously, my life would be easier if I was gay, because dealing with women is a pain in the butt.
The wife would not move out, so I went to stay at a hotel for a few days. On the last night, my new girlfriend stayed at the hotel with me. At dinner she told me she packed a vibrator in her suit case and her ex boyfriend had issues with her using it. Then I told her that I hadn’t had sex in two years ,and that I suffered from erectile dysfunction. Her telling me she used a vibrator intimidated me. God, she’s a slut, I thought I could never satisfy her in bed. That night I didn’t take anything and I failed to get hard at all.
My wife finally left the house about a week after I started dating this other woman. I went to my doctor and got a prescription for Levitra. Without the pills, I just could not get hard enough to perform. Even on the medication, this other woman I was dating had slept with so many guys since college she literally had to do the math to try to figure out just how many men she slept with. Me, it was just a girlfriend in grad school, my soon to be ex wife, and now this woman. Three women. I asked her to give me a figure and she stopped at about two dozen men but I think she was just too embarrassed to admit that there may have been more than that.
My wife and I finally got our court date in January. I couldn’t believe how long it took. Two months to see a judge. Welcome to ObamaNation. Thanksgiving. Christmas. New Year’s. And all this time off before, during, and after. And when I first met with my divorce lawyer he told me that people could walk into court and get divorced that same day. But when we finally got down to brass tacks, it took months and now it’s still going on some separation waiting period. I got my lawyer right away. My wife got some high profile woman lawyer that she could never get an appointment to see. I had my lawyer draft up a separation agreement. My wife’s lawyer sat on the paperwork for weeks, then drafted her own version of it, having us married in the wrong county, mis-spelling both of our names and getting several important facts about the divorce wrong. Typical female lawyer, asinine. So by the time my lawyer and I had made all the corrections, the year had ended and we couldn’t get a court date until mid-January. This had been dragged out since November. So we go before the judge,a woman judge, and we had to wait 120 days separated before the divorce would be finalized. That’s what she said. Now I know where that line comes from. I think the phrase “bear with me” was invented by a woman at work.
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Answer:

Mate, I believe your main problem causing your sexual dysfunction, grew from the every day verbal, mental and physical domestic abuse inflicted on you,by this woman you married.

Honestly pills aren’t going to help, neither is having your head filled with religious rubbish. Everything you mentioned and anger towards your government and legal system clearly shows you are a victim of domestic abuse.

In reality,you have all the rights in the world to be angry. Only things in your life aren’t going to get better for you until you truly realize this. By stopping yourself from repeatably being abused by abusive women. Which is what you are not realizing you are still doing to yourself.

I’ll give you a few links to read through, which I hope can be your first step to self reliance and stop this abuse happening to you. Mate once you do start taking steps, it will remove the mental pressure and silent stress you are suffering to realize this is where your emotional and health problems started and come from. It doesn’t make you less of a man or a wimp to ever admit you were domestically abused by a woman.

It happens, unfortunately in your country the laws are so backwards, abusive women get away with it. You actually wrote a fine example of this, how the laws in your country are allowing your abuser to continue to live with you, and abuse you verbally and mentally.

It’s a pity you haven’t had a open and broad minded good mate you could have talked to about this before this had psychologically affected your health and well being. I don’t know what services are available for men who are victims of abuse in your country, but I hope there is one.

http://www.pandorasproject.org/articles/maledomesticviolence.html

http://www.wadv.org/maleabuse.htm

http://www.stopmaleabuse.com/